Four lies people tell themselves about their leadership

Four lies people tell themselves about their leadership

There are plenty of lies people tell themselves when it comes to leadership. And as a leader yourself, it can be easy to become blind to your own faults. Whether you like it or not, people put you on a pedestal and believe that somehow you will encompass everything they want in a spiritual influence. The problems with this are that (a) you can never measure up and you will eventually let someone down, and (b) the pressure to be perfect can cause you to become preoccupied with image or, worse, arrogant.

This makes it ironic that you are in leadership, mainly because you have made a ton of mistakes in life and you probably see yourself as “just another normal person.” You just happen to work at a church and you hope that you can be “there” for a few people along the way.

Yet the Enemy wants you to become arrogant and egotistical. He wants to plant lies in your mind that create a false reality. Here are just a few lies I have believed in my past and the lessons that I have learned from them. Maybe it’ll save you from making some of the same mistakes.

Four lies people tell themselves about their leadership:

#1: You think you can do it all.

If you haven’t already, at some point you will think something along these lines: “if you want something done right, then do it yourself.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. The reality is this: If you want to have the greatest impact, find people who are better than you at things and LET GO.

#2: You think you need to sound spiritual.

Big words and deeply theological insights may impress a crowd of seminary students, but if you’re reaching the lost, you’ll spend a great deal of time with people who have no interest in such things. They could care less whether or not their epistemology is lends itself to a hermeneutically sound soteriology. They just want to know if God loves them and, more importantly, they will determine God’s love by your love (or lack thereof) for them. Focus less on sounding spiritual and more on being spiritual. That happens when you learn to pursue broken people at your own expense.

#3: You think you have to rescue everyone.

You are a naturally compassionate person and you’re easily preoccupied with broken people. Because of this, you will naturally struggle with the need to see everyone reached. On the one hand, this is a good thing, because God loves all people. The flip side is that you are not God and, as a result, you’re only responsible for reaching the people God wants you to reach and to trust him with the rest. The sooner you realize that only God is powerful enough to save, the sooner you’ll be able to have the impact He created you to have.

#4: You think you’ve arrived.

One of the most dangerous places you will ever be as a leader will be when you think you have it all figured out. You can never grow as a leader if you’re not willing to listen. Only teachable people are able to become great leaders for the Kingdom.


Every leader is subject to falling into one of these false assumptions. Nobody is an exception to the rule. If you want to become all the God created you as a leader, take some time on a regular basis to consider if you are falling into one of these temptations.

Which of these four false assumptions are you believing right now? Are you willing to be vulnerable and share?

About the Author

Brian is a husband, father, pastor, speaker and strategist. He helps youth leaders reach their full potential so they can take their ministries to the next level without burning out in the process. Brian lives in Nashville with his wife Sarah, daughter Shiloh, and their dog Henry.

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